Jennifer Carr
Lessons Made to Last Happy is the person who finds wisdom, the one who gains understanding. For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold. Proverbs 3:13-14 By Jennifer Carr Some people have the unique gift of timing and wisdom, the ability to say the right thing at the right time. My dad is one of those people. His humble insight has guided me though life, and his honest actions have set a desirable example for me to follow. I want to learn from my dad whenever I have the opportunity to, because I see the rewards his honor has returned to him and I want the same things for my life. I admire and try to imitate his leadership, his accountability and his ability to connect with people. My dad is a pastor, so I have grown up watching him be a leader in my family, my church and my community. People don’t look to him just because he’s a pastor, people look to him because has taken a genuine interest in their lives; he is effective because of the credibility he has built. He calls during the week just to hear how the new job is going. He goes to stock car races and football games with the guys, and talks about life over a beer. He makes conversation with the ladies in the hair salon. My dad goes out of his way to earn people’s trust through meaningful, personal relationships. As a father and a husband my dad has been a faithful provider and a strong leader that has brought us all close together. His example has shown me and my siblings what it means to function as one unit. His favorite saying when we have an argument is, “We’re all on the same team.” But relationships are only half of the equation to my dad’s credibility; the other component is integrity. People notice integrity because it shows itself in small ways in everyday life. Integrity is not honesty or good works, it is a lifestyle that takes practice and guidance. My dad has passed on some of the most valuable lessons to me at Orioles games or over a plate of creamed chipped beef at our favorite local diner. The advice he has given me may sound like silly reminders on the surface, but these lessons point to something greater and comprise the puzzle pieces to a life of character.
"Take responsibility for your actions, no matter the consequence." "God and family must always come first." "Never accept any marriage proposal that comes on a jumbo-tron at a sporting event." "Respect authority, even if you think they're wrong. But always stand up for your beliefs." "If a police officer ever gives you a ticket, always thank him anyway, because his job keeps you safe." "If something bad is tempting you, then stay as far away from it as possible! Otherwise, it's like putting a chocolate eclair in the fridge and saying you won't eat it." "Never yell the 'O' in the National Anthem; it is disrespectful to the men and women who have died for you." "Always be a faithful patron and a good tipper to your dry cleaner, mechanic and hair stylist. They can make or break you." Despite all of the wise advice I’ve received my entire life, I have still managed to make my share of mistakes. But I know where I can always go for honest and loving correction. Some people dread the day someone says, "You're acting just like your father." For me though, that will mark the day of my greatest accomplishment. |
